时差N小时 如何跟大嘴巴的朋友打交道

Dear Annie: When I was in college, I was good friends with "Carrie." When Carrie met my boyfriend, she was rather intoxicated¹ and said some hurtful things about him. Carrie went on and on about how she couldn't believe I would date a frat boy, that I was better than that, etc.

亲爱的安妮：大学时，我有个好朋友叫“凯利”。凯利见到我男朋友时喝醉了，然后把他说得一无是处。她滔滔不绝地讲着，说她还是不敢相信我会跟一个联谊会的男孩交往，我能找到更好的，等等。

Carrie apologized the next day. I married the boyfriend and still keep in touch with Carrie. But even after two years, I cannot shake what she said. I know her well enough to realize that while she was sorry, she meant every word. Carrie has asked to visit a couple of times, and I keep making excuses because it would be uncomfortable.

第二天凯利道歉了。我与男朋友结了婚，与凯利还保持着联系。但即使两年过后，我还是不能忘记她说过的话。我很了解她，她如果道歉，每一句都是认真的。好几次凯利想来拜访我，我都找借口拒绝了，因为这让我感觉不舒服。

I know her loose tongue was a result of the drinking and she did apologize, but I can't forget the incident. What should I say when she tells me she'd like to come and stay with us? — Confused Since College

我知道她嘴巴不严是因为喝醉的缘故，而且她的确道歉了，但我始终无法忘记那件事。她再提起想过来跟我们住一阵子时，我该怎么做呢？

Dear Confused: Even if Carrie meant those words at the time, it doesn't mean she still feels that way. Before inviting² Carrie to visit, have a frank³ discussion⁴. Tell her you are still bothered by those comments about your husband and, because you value the friendship so highly⁵, would like to clear the air. See what she says before checking her off your guest list.

亲爱的小糊涂：即使凯利当时是认真的，也不代表她现在还那样认为。在邀请她之前，与她开诚布公地谈一次话。告诉她你还在为当年她的出言不逊而烦恼，因为你是如此珍视你们之间的友谊，所以想消除误会。看看她会有何反应，然后再决定是否将它从客人名单上划掉。

1 intoxicated   

喝醉的，极其兴奋的

参考例句：

• She was intoxicated with success. 她为成功所陶醉。
• They became deeply intoxicated and totally disoriented. 他们酩酊大醉，东南西北全然不辨。

2 inviting   

adj.诱人的，引人注目的

参考例句：

• An inviting smell of coffee wafted into the room.一股诱人的咖啡香味飘进了房间。
• The kitchen smelled warm and inviting and blessedly familiar.这间厨房的味道温暖诱人，使人感到亲切温馨。

3 frank   

adj.坦白的，直率的，真诚的

参考例句：

• A frank discussion can help to clear the air.坦率的谈论有助于消除隔阂。
• She is frank and outgoing.她很爽朗。

4 discussion   

n.讨论，谈论；论述

参考例句：

• It is certain he will come to the discussion.他肯定会来参加讨论。
• After months of discussion,a peace agreement is gradually taking shape.经过几个月的商讨，和平协议渐渐有了眉目。

5 highly   

adv.高度地，极，非常；非常赞许地

参考例句：

• It is highly important to provide for the future.预先做好准备非常重要。
• The teacher speaks very highly of the boy's behaviour.老师称赞这个男孩的表现。