TED演讲:来自阿拉伯女商人的成功经验(5)

 You see, as a young woman in these situations, you have two options. 你们看，作为一个年轻女人遇到这些状况，你有两个选择。 

You can either decide to internalize these negative messages that are being thrown at you, 你可以决定去内化这些被丢在你身上的负面讯息，

to let them make you feel like a failure, 任凭他们让你自我贬低，

like success is way too hard to ever achieve, 就像成功是遥不可及般的，

or you can choose to see that others' negativity is their own issue, 或者你可以选择去看待：别人的负面能量是他们自己的问题，

and instead transform it into your own personal fuel. 而取而代之地转换这些变成你的个人动力。

I have learned¹ to always go for option two, 我已经学会总是选第二个选择，

and I have found that it has taken me from strength to strength. 然后我发现这带领我不断强大。

And it's true what they say: success is the best revenge². 而他们说得是正确的：成功就是最好的复仇

Some women in the Middle East are lucky enough to be married to someone supportive of their career. 有些中东的女性够幸运地可以嫁给某个支持她职业生涯的人

Correction: I should say "smart enough," 修正一下，我应该说是够聪明

because who you marry is your own choice, 因为你嫁的人是你的选择，

and you'd better marry someone supportive if you plan to have a long career. 而你最好可以嫁给很支持你的人，如果你计划要有很长的职业生涯。

Still today, the Arab man is not an equal contributor in the home. 时至今日，阿拉伯男姓在家中仍不是个公平的贡献者。

It's simply not expected by our society, and even frowned³ upon as not very manly⁴. 在我们的社会简而易见地不被期待，甚至会因为没有男人味而被人不满。

As for the Arab woman, our society still assumes⁵ 对阿拉伯女性来说，我们的社会仍然认为

that her primary source of happiness should be the happiness and prosperity⁶ of her children and husband. 阿拉伯女性主要的幸福快乐应该来自于她小孩与丈夫的幸福与成功。

She mostly exists for her family.  她几乎是为了她的家庭而存在。

Things are changing, but it will take time. 事态正在改变，但这会需要些时间。

For now, it means that the professional Arab woman has to somehow maintain⁷ the perfect home, 现在来说，它代表着职业阿拉伯女性必须以某种方法维持她的完美家庭，

make sure that her children's every need is being taken care of and manage her demanding career. 确保她孩子的每个需求都有被照顾到，然后经营她耗费尽精力的职业生涯。

To achieve this, I have found the hard way that you need to apply your hard-earned professional skills to your personal life. 为了完成这项成就，我发现了难处在于你需要在你的私生活中去运用你得来不易的职业技能。

You need to work your life. 你需要巧妙地安排你的生活。

Here is how I do this in my personal life. 以下就是我在我个人生活中做的事.

1 learned   

adj.有学问的，博学的；learn的过去式和过去分词

参考例句：

• He went into a rage when he learned about it.他听到这事后勃然大怒。
• In this little village,he passed for a learned man.在这个小村子里，他被视为有学问的人。

2 revenge   

v.报...之仇，为...报仇 ；n.报仇，复仇

参考例句：

• She poisoned his mind with ideas of hate and revenge.她用复仇的思想来毒害他的心灵。
• There was anger in his eyes and revenge in his heart.他两眼闪现怒火，一心只想复仇。

3 frowned   

皱眉( frown的过去式和过去分词 )

参考例句：

• She frowned in puzzlement. 她迷惑地蹙着眉。
• The mother frowned when her son failed in his exam. 儿子考试不及格时，母亲皱着眉。

4 manly   

adj.有男子气概的；adv.男子般地，果断地

参考例句：

• The boy walked with a confident manly stride.这男孩以自信的男人步伐行走。
• He set himself manly tasks and expected others to follow his example.他给自己定下了男子汉的任务，并希望别人效之。

5 assumes   

取得（权力）( assume的第三人称单数 )； 假设； 假定； 呈现

参考例句：

• The motion of matter always assumes certain forms. 物质的运动总是表现为一定的形式。
• It is usually the woman who assumes overall care of the baby. 通常由女性负责照顾孩子的方方面面。

6 prosperity   

n.繁荣，昌盛，成功

参考例句：

• I wish you the life of happiness and prosperity. 我祝你生活幸福、万事如意。
• A prosperity never seen before appeared in the countryside.农村出现了前所未有的繁荣。

7 maintain   

vt.支撑；赡养，抚养；维持，保有

参考例句：

• He has to maintain a large family on a small salary.他不得不依靠很少的工资养活一家人。
• We must do our best to maintain sales at their usual rate.我们要尽力使销售额保持在平日的水平上。