每个人生活中要经历的6个最孤单的时刻

 　　Although we might be surrounded by people, enveloped¹ by countless² possessions, and bombarded by information all around us, there are still times when we end up feeling lonely and disconnected.

　　虽然我们可能被人群包围，被无数财富所包围，被我们周围的信息轰炸，但有时我们仍会感到孤独不安。

　　While feeling lonely might be undesirable³, this is what makes us truly human, and it is also important for us to be upfront and honest about this because we all will encounter such moments in our lives. Here are a few of those loneliest moments.

　　虽然感觉孤独可能不可取，但这却是使我们真正为人的原因，我们也要对此坦率和诚实，因为在生活中我们都会遇到这样的时刻。这里有一些最孤独的时刻。

　　1. When you are in a crowd but can’t connect with anyone当你身处人群，却与任何人都无关联时

　　There will be times when we are surrounded by countless individuals but still feel lonely and disconnected from the many around us. You might feel this when you just arrived in a new country, stepped into a new culture, started in a new workplace, or enrolled⁴ in a new university.

　　有时我们被无数的人所包围时仍感到孤独不安。当你刚刚来到一个新的国家，步入一种新的文化，在一个新的工作场所开始工作，或者进入一所新的大学时，你可能会感受到这点。

　　Similar feelings might arise during your everyday commute⁵. You may be packed in a crowded train like a canned sardine⁶ but still feel isolated⁷ from the crowd.

　　类似感觉可能出现在你的日常上下班路程中。你可能挤在一个拥挤的火车像沙丁鱼罐头一般，但仍然觉得非常孤独。

　　In these times, don’t worry because it’s alright to have our own moments of solitude⁸.

　　这些情况下，不用担心，因为拥有一些孤单时刻是很不错的。

　　2. When you lose loved ones to death

　　当你因死亡而失去亲人时

　　What makes us human is that we face health and sickness, life and death.

　　使我们生而为人的就是我们要面对健康疾病，生和死。

　　The older we get, the more likely the people around us — our friends and loved ones — are subjected to sickness and death. People might fall sick and people might perish because of natural or unnatural⁹ causes.

　　我们年级越大，我们周围的人就越可能—我们的朋友亲人—经历生命死亡。人们可能会因为自然或不自然的原因而生病、死亡。

　　It’s terribly sad to let go of loved ones and not be able to see them again. They might be gone physically¹⁰, but they will always remain in our hearts and minds and we get to continue their legacies¹¹. Like someone once said, “Don’t be sad that it’s over. Be glad that it happened.”

　　亲人去世，再也不能相见，这是件非常悲伤的事。他们可能在现实中死去了，但会一直活在我们的心中，我们要继承他们的遗志。像有人曾说的：“不要悲伤于它的结束。要乐观看待其发生。”

　　3. When you lose loved ones to busyness

　　当你因忙碌而失去亲人时

　　When friends and loved ones move on to different stages in life, there is no doubt that they might get busier with work and respective life commitments.

　　当朋友亲人步入人生不同阶段时，无疑他们可能会因其工作和各自的生活承诺而变得更忙。

　　I used to spend a lot of time hanging out with my close group of friends in university, but when we graduated, got work, and when some got married and had kids, the amount of time we spend together plummeted¹² dramatically.

　　大学时许多时间我都是和好朋友一同度过，但当我们毕业工作后，当一些人结婚有孩子后，我们一起的时间大大减少了。

　　This doesn’t have to be the end of the story because it’s all about being proactive and intentional¹³ in building and maintaining relationships with others. If we don’t have time, we can always make time for the things and people who matter to us.

　　这不必是故事的结尾，因为这一切在建设和维护与他人的关系上都是主动和有意的。如果我们没有时间，我们总是可以挤出做事时间和与对我们重要的人一起的时间。

　　4. When you move to a new country

　　当你搬去一个新国家

　　Packing your bags and shifting into a new country means that you might be leaving your friends, family, comforts, and community behind and starting fresh. You might feel lonely when you are suddenly immersed in a new environment and culture which you have no idea about and you are in a new place where you don’t know anyone.

　　收拾行李搬到一个新的国家，意味着你可能会离开你的朋友，家人，舒适区和社区，并重新开始。当你突然沉浸在一种你毫无所知的新的环境和文化中，处于一处你不认识任何人的地方时，你可能会感到孤独。

　　But don’t worry — this is all part of a new adventure. Give it time and you will get to know your surroundings better and making good friendships there.

　　但不要担心—这就是一次新的冒险旅程的所有部分。花些时间，你就能更好的了解你的周围，交到一些好朋友。

　　5. When you have a great idea but no one listens当你有好主意，但没人听时

　　Imagine if you have a great idea for a dinner location, a business solution, a birthday party, or a holiday destination. You share this excitedly with your peers but your ideas fall on deaf ears. How would you feel? And how would you feel if after your sharing, they simply move on to the next topic of discussion?

　　想象一下，如果你对于晚餐地点、商务解决方案、生日聚会，或度假目的地有个好主意。你和你的同事分享了这个激动的想法，但是你的想法却没受到重视。你感觉如何？如果在你的分享之后，他们只是继续下一个讨论话题，你会觉得如何？

　　Don’t worry, because it might be that you have yet to find a group of people who are truly interested in your ideas. Keep being open to new people and you will eventually find friends who truly appreciate you.

　　不要担心，因为这可能是你还没有找到真正对你的想法感兴趣的人。不断结交新的朋友，你最终会找到真正理解你的朋友。

　　6. When you have a great dream but they don’t seem to get it当你有个很大的梦想，而他们似乎不信时

　　Similar to the previous point, I have shared my dreams with countless people and there are occasions where I am met with blank stares. It is as if I just spoke¹⁴ to them in a different language, or that they think that my dreams are simply ridiculous.

　　类似于前一点，我和无数的人分享过我的梦想，有时只会收到茫然的眼神。好像我在用不同的语言对他们说话，或者他们只是认为我的梦想是可笑的。

　　That’s fine. It’s not my problem to convince or persuade them to believe in my passions. As long as I’m the one taking charge of my life and destiny, that’s more than enough. I don’t need permission, approval, or validation¹⁵ from others to live the life that I want.

　　那很好。让他们相信我的激情并不是我的问题。只要我是掌管我生命与命运的人，那就足够了。我不需要从别人的生活中对我想要的生活得到许可，批准或验证。

　　So, take heart when you do go through seasons of loneliness in your life. This is what makes us human and the good news is that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. We don’t have to go through this alone.

　　所以，当你要经历生活中孤独的时刻时，鼓起勇气吧。这是我们生而为人的原因，而好消息是轨道尽头总有光明。我们不必独自经历。

 

1 enveloped   

v.包围，笼罩，包住( envelop的过去式和过去分词 )

参考例句：

• She was enveloped in a huge white towel. 她裹在一条白色大毛巾里。
• Smoke from the burning house enveloped the whole street. 燃烧着的房子冒出的浓烟笼罩了整条街。 来自《简明英汉词典》

2 countless   

adj.无数的，多得不计其数的

参考例句：

• In the war countless innocent people lost their lives.在这场战争中无数无辜的人丧失了性命。
• I've told you countless times.我已经告诉你无数遍了。

3 undesirable   

adj.不受欢迎的，不良的，不合意的，讨厌的；n.不受欢迎的人，不良分子

参考例句：

• They are the undesirable elements among the employees.他们是雇员中的不良分子。
• Certain chemicals can induce undesirable changes in the nervous system.有些化学物质能在神经系统中引起不良变化。

4 enrolled   

adj.入学登记了的v.[亦作enrol]( enroll的过去式和过去分词 )；登记，招收，使入伍（或入会、入学等），参加，成为成员；记入名册；卷起，包起

参考例句：

• They have been studying hard from the moment they enrolled. 从入学时起，他们就一直努力学习。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• He enrolled with an employment agency for a teaching position. 他在职业介绍所登了记以谋求一个教师的职位。 来自《简明英汉词典》

5 commute   

vi.乘车上下班；vt.减(刑)；折合；n.上下班交通

参考例句：

• I spend much less time on my commute to work now.我现在工作的往返时间要节省好多。
• Most office workers commute from the suburbs.很多公司的职员都是从郊外来上班的。

6 sardine   

n.[C]沙丁鱼

参考例句：

• Every bus arrives and leaves packed as fully as a sardine tin.每辆开来和开走的公共汽车都塞得像沙丁鱼罐头一样拥挤。
• As we chatted,a brightly painted sardine boat dropped anchor.我们正在聊着，只见一条颜色鲜艳的捕捞沙丁鱼的船抛了锚。

7 isolated   

adj.与世隔绝的

参考例句：

• His bad behaviour was just an isolated incident. 他的不良行为只是个别事件。
• Patients with the disease should be isolated. 这种病的患者应予以隔离。

8 solitude   

n. 孤独; 独居,荒僻之地,幽静的地方

参考例句：

• People need a chance to reflect on spiritual matters in solitude. 人们需要独处的机会来反思精神上的事情。
• They searched for a place where they could live in solitude. 他们寻找一个可以过隐居生活的地方。

9 unnatural   

adj.不自然的；反常的

参考例句：

• Did her behaviour seem unnatural in any way?她有任何反常表现吗？
• She has an unnatural smile on her face.她脸上挂着做作的微笑。

10 physically   

adj.物质上，体格上，身体上，按自然规律

参考例句：

• He was out of sorts physically,as well as disordered mentally.他浑身不舒服，心绪也很乱。
• Every time I think about it I feel physically sick.一想起那件事我就感到极恶心。

11 legacies   

n.遗产( legacy的名词复数 )；遗留之物；遗留问题；后遗症

参考例句：

• Books are the legacies that a great genius leaves to mankind. 书是伟大的天才留给人类的精神财富。 来自辞典例句
• General legacies are subject to the same principles as demonstrative legacies. 一般的遗赠要与指定数目的遗赠遵循同样的原则。 来自辞典例句

12 plummeted   

v.垂直落下，骤然跌落( plummet的过去式和过去分词 )

参考例句：

• Share prices plummeted to an all-time low. 股票价格暴跌到历史最低点。
• A plane plummeted to earth. 一架飞机一头栽向地面。 来自《简明英汉词典》

13 intentional   

adj.故意的，有意（识）的

参考例句：

• Let me assure you that it was not intentional.我向你保证那不是故意的。
• His insult was intentional.他的侮辱是有意的。

14 spoke   

n.（车轮的）辐条；轮辐；破坏某人的计划；阻挠某人的行动 v.讲，谈（speak的过去式）；说；演说；从某种观点来说

参考例句：

• They sourced the spoke nuts from our company.他们的轮辐螺帽是从我们公司获得的。
• The spokes of a wheel are the bars that connect the outer ring to the centre.辐条是轮子上连接外圈与中心的条棒。

15 validation   

n.确认

参考例句：

• If the countdown timer ever hits zero, do your validation processing. 处理这种情况的方法是在输入的同时使用递减计时器，每次击键重新计时。如果递减计时器变为零，就开始验证。 来自About Face 3交互设计精髓
• Although the validation control is a very widespread idiom, most such controls can be improved. 虽然确认控件是非常广泛的习惯用法，但还有很多有待改进的地方。 来自About Face 3交互设计精髓