四招教你如何请别人帮忙

 　　四招教你如何请别人帮忙

　　Even capable, career-driven people need a leg up from time to time. Whether it's job advice from a former manager, a couple of industry tips from a colleague, or a pep talk from a friend, feedback and encouragement are crucial stepping stones to navigating¹ to where you want to be in your career. There are a couple of tricks to asking for guidance to ensure that you obtain the information you need.

　　就算是有能力并且有明确职业方向的人有时也需要帮助。不管是从以前经理那儿获得的求职信息，从同事那儿获得的一些行业点睛，还是在朋友处获得的激励，反馈和鼓励是达到职业中的理想位置的重要一步。下面有一些在询问建议时的小技巧，可以确保你获得所需要的信息。

　　1. Provide some concise² context.

　　1. 提供明确的情境。

　　Being asked for advice in a vacuum can be a frustrating³ experience for any adviser⁴. Sure, she might know your current company and job title, but you shouldn't assume that she knows much more than that. Take a moment to frame up your situation and the problem you face. Briefly⁵ state your goal and the ways in which you have tried to achieve it. Providing a little context will help to steer⁶ her toward the subject matter you wish to cover and will guarantee that the conversation won't take more valuable time than it needs to.

　　对任何提供建议的人来说，不知道具体情况就被要求提供解决方案是一件让人很沮丧的事。当然，她可能知道你现在的公司和职位，但是不可能知道更多信息了。花点时间整理下你的情况和面临的问题。简单说下你的目标和为了实现目标已经试过的办法。提供具体情境可以帮她了解你希望解决的问题，而且可以确保谈话不会占用更多的宝贵时间。

　　2. Ask specific questions.

　　2. 提出明确的问题。

　　Even if you set up a contextual framework for your conundrum⁷, the flow of the advice won't begin until you ask a question. Instead of posing a sweeping⁸ query⁹ like, "What advice do you have for me?" drill down to questions that get at the particulars of your circumstance such as, "What facets¹⁰ of my career should I work on to make myself more appealing for a promotion¹¹?" or, "How did you overcome setbacks to your career advancement¹²?" Crafting questions specific to your situation will get you the guidance you need by providing your adviser direction on where you need help most.

　　即使你给困难做好了“具体框架”，但除非你开始询问，不然别人还是不会提供建议。别问类似于“你对我的情况有什么建议？”这样空泛的问题，而是针对你自己的情况提问：“为了能在升职时更有竞争力，我应该着重于工作的哪几个方面？”或者“在职业晋升的过程中你是如何克服障碍的？”根据情况提出明确的问题，可以让提意见的人明白你最需要帮助的地方，这样你才能获得想要的帮助。

　　3. Don't ask for proprietary¹³ information or trade secrets.

　　3. 别问专业资料或行业机密。

　　A request for work advice is just that: advice. It's not appropriate for you to think that she will hand over her own company's secrets to give you an advantage.Rather than requesting data you know is proprietary like revenue numbers, budgets, or salaries, ask her what you should research to get started on your own project. If your adviser tells you she's not comfortable divulging¹⁴ something, don't press her on it. You're looking to gain some meaningful insights into your own job, not get her in trouble.

　　对工作情况的询问仅仅是为了获得建议而已。你别以为别人会为了给你提供便利而泄露公司秘密。你可以问她为了开展自己的项目要做什么研究，而不是问有关收入、预算或薪酬之类的与公司情况相关的问题。如果对方说她不方便泄露某事，就别强迫她说了。你是希望获得关于自身工作的有用的见解，而不是让提意见的人陷入麻烦。

　　4. Show your appreciation¹⁵.

　　4. 表达感激。

　　If you ask for advice over lunch or coffee, pick up the tab. And always send a thank you note after your talk with a mention of how your contact's advice helped you with your work. You may want her help again, so be polite and show your gratitude¹⁶ so that her door always remains¹⁷ open.

　　如果你是在午饭或喝咖啡时寻求对方建议，那就由你付钱吧。在谈话结束后要表示感谢，提一下对方的建议是如何帮助了你的工作。你可能会再次需要她的帮忙，所以请礼貌一些，表示感激，这样她会一直愿意帮助你。

1 navigating   

v.给（船舶、飞机等）引航，导航( navigate的现在分词 )；（从海上、空中等）横越；横渡；飞跃

参考例句：

• These can also be very useful when navigating time-based documents, such as video and audio. 它对于和时间有关的文档非常有用，比如视频和音频文档。 来自About Face 3交互设计精髓
• Vehicles slowed to a crawl on city roads, navigating slushy snow. 汽车在市区路上行驶缓慢，穿越泥泞的雪地。 来自互联网

2 concise   

adj.简洁的，简明的

参考例句：

• The explanation in this dictionary is concise and to the point.这部词典里的释义简明扼要。
• I gave a concise answer about this.我对于此事给了一个简要的答复。

3 frustrating   

adj.产生挫折的，使人沮丧的，令人泄气的v.使不成功( frustrate的现在分词 )；挫败；使受挫折；令人沮丧

参考例句：

• It's frustrating to have to wait so long. 要等这么长时间，真令人懊恼。
• It was a demeaning and ultimately frustrating experience. 那是一次有失颜面并且令人沮丧至极的经历。 来自《简明英汉词典》

4 adviser   

n.劝告者，顾问

参考例句：

• They employed me as an adviser.他们聘请我当顾问。
• Our department has engaged a foreign teacher as phonetic adviser.我们系已经聘请了一位外籍老师作为语音顾问。

5 briefly   

adv.简单地，简短地

参考例句：

• I want to touch briefly on another aspect of the problem.我想简单地谈一下这个问题的另一方面。
• He was kidnapped and briefly detained by a terrorist group.他被一个恐怖组织绑架并短暂拘禁。

6 steer   

vt.驾驶，为…操舵；引导；vi.驾驶

参考例句：

• If you push the car, I'll steer it.如果你来推车，我就来驾车。
• It's no use trying to steer the boy into a course of action that suits you.想说服这孩子按你的方式行事是徒劳的。

7 conundrum   

n.谜语；难题

参考例句：

• Let me give you some history about a conundrum.让我给你们一些关于谜题的历史。
• Scientists had focused on two explanations to solve this conundrum.科学家已锁定两种解释来解开这个难题。

8 sweeping   

adj.范围广大的，一扫无遗的

参考例句：

• The citizens voted for sweeping reforms.公民投票支持全面的改革。
• Can you hear the wind sweeping through the branches?你能听到风掠过树枝的声音吗？

9 query   

n.疑问，问号，质问；vt.询问，表示怀疑

参考例句：

• I query very much whether it is wise to act so hastily.我真怀疑如此操之过急地行动是否明智。
• They raised a query on his sincerity.他们对他是否真诚提出质疑。

10 facets   

n.（宝石或首饰的）小平面( facet的名词复数 )；（事物的）面；方面

参考例句：

• The question had many facets. 这个问题是多方面的。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• A fully cut brilliant diamond has 68 facets. 经过充分切刻的光彩夺目的钻石有68个小平面。 来自《简明英汉词典》

11 promotion   

n.提升，晋级；促销，宣传

参考例句：

• The teacher conferred with the principal about Dick's promotion.教师与校长商谈了迪克的升级问题。
• The clerk was given a promotion and an increase in salary.那个职员升了级，加了薪。

12 advancement   

n.前进，促进，提升

参考例句：

• His new contribution to the advancement of physiology was well appreciated.他对生理学发展的新贡献获得高度赞赏。
• The aim of a university should be the advancement of learning.大学的目标应是促进学术。

13 proprietary   

n.所有权，所有的；独占的；业主

参考例句：

• We had to take action to protect the proprietary technology.我们必须采取措施保护专利技术。
• Proprietary right is the foundation of jus rerem.所有权是物权法之根基。

14 divulging   

v.吐露，泄露( divulge的现在分词 )

参考例句：

• The soldier was shot for divulging the plans to the enemy. 这个士兵因向敌人泄密被击毙。 来自互联网
• Gives itself a small seat. Divulging heartily. 给自己一个小位子。尽情的宣泄。 来自互联网

15 appreciation   

n.评价；欣赏；感谢；领会，理解；价格上涨

参考例句：

• I would like to express my appreciation and thanks to you all.我想对你们所有人表达我的感激和谢意。
• I'll be sending them a donation in appreciation of their help.我将送给他们一笔捐款以感谢他们的帮助。

16 gratitude   

adj.感激，感谢

参考例句：

• I have expressed the depth of my gratitude to him.我向他表示了深切的谢意。
• She could not help her tears of gratitude rolling down her face.她感激的泪珠禁不住沿着面颊流了下来。

17 remains   

n.剩余物，残留物；遗体，遗迹

参考例句：

• He ate the remains of food hungrily.他狼吞虎咽地吃剩余的食物。
• The remains of the meal were fed to the dog.残羹剩饭喂狗了。