福克斯新闻 揠苗助长不利于孩子身心健康

Fox on family. As parents, we want what's best for our kids. But sometimes, we also want what we wanted as kids, or just to bask¹ in their glory:

欢迎收听福克斯家庭新闻。我们总想给孩子最好的。但有时候，我们给他们的不过是我们作为孩子想要的，或者只是为了分享他们的荣耀：

"We have to be careful not to project what we felt we never accomplished² onto them and then push them so hard with it." Licensed³ professional counselor⁴ and mother-of-three Rhonda Martin says it's a common problem in sports and academics: "Maybe they had a goal of, you know, I wish I had extra after school hours of studying or I had a harder school to go to, and then they project that onto their child and then their child's just like exhausted⁵ and worn out."

“我们必须小心，不要把我们从来没有做过的事情投射到他们身上，然后逼着他们去做那些事情。”特许专业顾问兼三个孩子的母亲朗达·马丁说，这是体育界和学术界常见的问题：“也许他们的目标是，我希望我在课余时间有额外的学习时间，或者我想上一所好大学，然后他们就把这个目标投射到他们的孩子身上，然后把自己弄得像孩子一样疲惫。”

Martin says it's important to think about personality, not just talent, when choosing courses or activities: "Don't just keep repeating what you've been doing, whether it's a sport or a foreign language, or whatever math curriculum you've selected. Make sure that you tweak it each year to that child's capacity."

马丁说，在选择课程或活动时，考虑个性而不仅仅是才能是很重要的：“不要只是重复你一直在做的事情，无论是体育运动还是外语，或者你选择的任何数学课程，确保你每年都会根据孩子的能力进行调整。”

And she urges parents to make sure they don't want something more than the child does.

她HIA敦促父母确保他们不想要比孩子更多的东西。

With FOX on Family, I'm Lisa Brady.

感谢您收听福克斯家庭新闻，我是丽莎·布拉迪。

1 bask   

vt.取暖，晒太阳，沐浴于

参考例句：

• Turtles like to bask in the sun.海龟喜欢曝于阳光中。
• In winter afternoons,he likes to bask in the sun in his courtyard.冬日的午后，他喜欢坐在院子晒太阳。

2 accomplished   

adj.有才艺的；有造诣的；达到了的

参考例句：

• Thanks to your help,we accomplished the task ahead of schedule.亏得你们帮忙,我们才提前完成了任务。
• Removal of excess heat is accomplished by means of a radiator.通过散热器完成多余热量的排出。

3 licensed   

adj.得到许可的v.许可，颁发执照(license的过去式和过去分词)

参考例句：

• The new drug has not yet been licensed in the US. 这种新药尚未在美国获得许可。
• Is that gun licensed? 那支枪有持枪执照吗？

4 counselor   

n.顾问，法律顾问

参考例句：

• The counselor gave us some disinterested advice.顾问给了我们一些无私的忠告。
• Chinese commercial counselor's office in foreign countries.中国驻国外商务参赞处。

5 exhausted   

adj.极其疲惫的，精疲力尽的

参考例句：

• It was a long haul home and we arrived exhausted.搬运回家的这段路程特别长，到家时我们已筋疲力尽。
• Jenny was exhausted by the hustle of city life.珍妮被城市生活的忙乱弄得筋疲力尽。